The Coping Audit — Showleh Tolbert

You're not in denial. You know the patterns are there — the wine at the end of the day, the work that expands to fill every hour, the late-night scrolling, the constant caretaking.

You've probably even tried to change them. Maybe for a week. Maybe for three.

This isn't about a lack of discipline.
It's about what's underneath.

The Coping Audit isn't a judgment. It's a map. A private, honest look at the patterns you've developed to survive—and what they may be trying to protect.

No labels. No shame. Just information you can actually use.

What you'll discover inside

The 7 most common coping patterns in high-achieving women after divorce — and which ones are yours
What each pattern is actually protecting (it's not what you think)
Why trying harder hasn't worked—and what to pay attention to instead
One concrete practice to try this week

You don't have to fix anything before you begin. Just bring your honesty.

Download The Coping Audit

Start understanding the patterns you've judged yourself for—and what they may actually be trying to protect.

Showleh Tolbert

Master Coach & Hypnotherapist · NLP, Time Line Therapy®, Hypnosis Trainer

I created this resource because I've lived it.

Two marriages.

Years of doing everything right and still finding myself in the same place.

What finally changed wasn't trying harder.

It was understanding what my coping had been protecting me from all along.

This audit is where that conversation begins.